This transparency post runs from March 2020 to June 2020. Thank you all for your support during this difficult time- we appreciate all the kind words we've been sent!
*General*
Nope, it doesn't seem like he's said it anywhere, but we'll certainly know if they get married! I feel like the wedding ceremony is where I heard Kelton's middle name for the first time.
I'm just going to be completely honest: don't know, don't care.
Thanks for your ideas! Personally I find our community lovely, friendly and thoughtful and hope you have a better experience if you choose to return!
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Yeah, I will politely decline. I prefer to keep the polls more light-hearted and fun, and that one seems like it would be controversy city.
I've been TPing posts critiquing Reddit because I don't want to be a place where people go to tattle on them, sorry! Personally, it is not a forum I choose to engage with. If what they're doing really gets to you, I'd encourage you to let them know directly.
It is incredibly sweet of you to let us know! Thank you so much!
These two are about the same disastrous poll, and I'll just hold my tongue and say: Glad someone enjoyed it!
Yes. Mainly it made me SO SO SO sad for the tigers. All the people suck. I know some people like certain people featured on that show, but frankly I think they should all face some kind of justice for endangered species act violations.
This is a response to a bit of a rant I had about large fundie weddings in July (Nurie & Nathan)...and it looks like after all it will be happening. Should it be? probably not, but here we are!
Anon, we couldn't find the comments you were referring to, I am sorry about that!
These have been fixed, but I am a little worried about you anon going through everything, even to the point of checking old math, as much as I appreciate it.
*Oldies*
This is an ask which should be included with the ones answered in this post, sorry about the delay anon!
Here is a link to a similar ask, and it is the same response I have to this one.
This video was posted March 27, and Jill has not announced a pregnancy to date. Personally I did not think she appeared pregnant in the video.
These anons were a bit late to the pants party, and didn't make the roundup post which is linked here!
So I drafted this, got nervous and felt vulnerable about posting it, left it in drafts, and it slipped my mind. I am sorry about that, totally my bad, but it really feels like it is an oldie at this point and this is where it should go.
I know you said “people,” but I am going to speak for myself here, since this is one of those issues that I think reasonable minds differ on. But anon, I think your question is in good faith, so here is my pro-choice perspective which I hope helps illuminate the question.
Even among pro-choice people, from my research, there is no clear consensus on when life begins during pregnancy. Different (non-fundie) religions, scientists, pro-choice human beings in general can reasonably disagree here. But here’s the thing: I don’t think there needs to be a universal answer. What matters is protecting access to safe and legal abortions.
First, I don’t think conception is a useful marker. Pregnancy begins at implantation, when the fertilized egg implants into the uterus. Before that, fertilized eggs often do not implant and just exit the uterus during the menstrual cycle. Here’s an article I found interesting on this point. But based on my understanding of the reproductive process, implantation is the beginning of pregnancy.
Still, that doesn’t answer when life begins. It’s definitely not something I can figure out in one tumblr ask, but I don’t think I need to. The reason I don’t think there needs to be a universal answer to this question is that bodily autonomy is what is key here. Bodily autonomy is the idea that each one of us are in charge of our own bodies, to the point that we don’t remove organs from deceased bodies without the consent of that person during their lifetime, even though those organs can save lives. Pregnant people retain that control over their bodies and can therefore decide whether to terminate or proceed with a pregnancy.
In essence, I think I’m agreeing with your second question that for me, the ability to terminate a pregnancy- safely and accessibly- is what matters, rather than this more philosophical matter. As to the response Em gave to the ask which prompted your question, linked above, I think is is helpful to remember we’re talking about fundies here. If I ever am pregnant, non-fundie as I am, there’s no way I can keep that a secret from my parents for more than a week. Especially after a loss, I would just need their support. But we’ve seen fundies announce pregnancies publicly early before with explicit pro-life motivations (Jill & Derick with Israel), so I think that’s important to keep in mind. However, in this particular case with Joy telling just her family early and waiting to announce publicly, I think her motivations were more seeking support from her family than making a pro-life point. But I agree with Em that we see culturally they tend to announce early to their families, and that a fundamentalist understanding of the world factors into that.
I hope that helps- I truly believe you came here in good faith, and I tried to respond in kind. To that end, I would ask that we not turn this into a debate; I don’t think either side is going to convince the other. I just wanted to help this anon understand another perspective than the one they were raised in.
-T
*Censored*
Above asks censored for inappropriately discussing the appearances of minors.
The preceding asks censored for privacy reasons. For the last ask, a quick note: At this point, we prefer to respect the privacy of Ashley and her family by keeping their future off the blog. Asks about her time on BuB and her relationship with Nathan are still fine, but we won't be posting more updates on her from this point.
The Rodrigues family does not seem to have publicly stated their location at this point, so we're going to respect that for the time being. Thanks for understanding!
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